Archive for November 16th, 2011

It has been a study that’s been on the mind of scientists for decades, what are the differences between a male and female brain? Proven studies have shown that the way men and women process information and engage in problem solving are completely different. It truly is hard for any couple to understand and recognize these differences, unless you are an expert in couples counseling, but it can help dramatically to explain some of the reasons for your partner’s behaviours.

Both men and women process emotional experiences completely different – Certain parts of our brain are used to process emotions that is why women sometimes remember emotional things more intensely than men do.

You hear this a lot, men are always blamed for being too insensitive when they do not recall a situation that was extremely important to their female partner. However, there have been actual studies showing that when an emotional experience occurs, women actually imprint this on their brain completely different from men so what that means is a man will not remember an argument the same way and might not even recall the event happened at all.

Also there have been multiple studies that men and women solve problems differently which can result in differences in communication styles too. Men may use their communication skills as a way to solve problems and offer solutions. On the other hand, women often use communication to talk about their daily life experiences. They also tend to offer more emotional support and want to be heard more, without having the problem solved for them.

An extremely important thing for men to understand is that their wives or significant other are not just “talking for no reason,” but to actually understand that this is exactly how their brain works – It is a lot easier and helpful for them to communicate in such a way. However, it is also important for women to understand that when they share a problem with their loved one, they may jump in to try and solve it immediately – Most likely it is not in their nature to listen and offer emotional support. So, if women just want to be heard, it is helpful to start out by telling your spouse, that this is what you are looking for.

When you as a couple understand that there are biological differences, it can really help each sex understand the other person better. Instead of trying to make your spouse more like yourself, try to recognize that they are different. After all, your spouse’s biological make up creates differences that you can honour and respect when you understand how their brain works.